Today’s guest post is from Annarose Ingarra-Milch. She’s a great new friend of mine who is an author (Lunch with Lucille) and motivational speaker. She believes in self-empowerment and her mantra is “we are our best asset at any age.” Her philosophy fits in perfectly with the Le Bon Chef story of an older woman proving herself relevant in a rapidly changing landscape. Welcome Annarose!
— Sue Lange
In a small, nothing to write home about, bar in New York City, my husband and I were treated to a drink – The Balvenie Scotch, 30 years old. It’s a good thing we weren’t paying, as the two — very short — neat shots in a rock glass cost our host $70. Keeping our comments to ourselves we sat back and treasured each sip. A master distiller may report that it is complex and rich, or sweeter then drier, or oaky or whatever. All I know is that it tastes delicious and brings me joyful satisfaction.
I find similar bliss with certain red wines, such as a Bordeaux, even a Cab when aged perfectly to enhance its quality – or as I prefer, simply to please my taste buds. And of course, whose lips don’t celebrate when cheese, especially a Parmesan or Gouda that has benefitted from the ripening period, becomes a bit harder and sharper. Even classic cars and chic retro clothing and furniture bring smiles, and like scotch, wine, and cheese are appreciated and valued.
And yet when it comes to people, age is not deemed to be an asset. Instead, women especially (but men are beginning to hear the drum beat as well) are bombarded with media messages to ‘hide the gray,’ ‘get rid of the wrinkles.’ Our age is deemed to be a liability.
But did you know that age is actually an asset? In my TEDx presentation ‘Age is an Asset,’ I remind us that as we age we get smarter. The term, coined in the 1960’s by psychologist Raymond Cattell, is “crystalized intelligence.” It is the intelligence we gain strictly by living – by aging. Not only do we get smarter as we age, studies show that with each passing birthday our youthful angst dissipates and we become more comfortable in our skin. Plus, as the years pass, we begin to think more about our legacy and look to be of assistance to the generations coming behind us. How wonderful is that!
Most importantly, as we age, we learn the true value of time. Carpe diem becomes the mantra. We seek out experiences and adventures that give us cause for celebration. After all, time is our most precious commodity. Just ask any bartender in any NYC dive bar.
— Annarose Ingarra-Milch